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Making Peace with Pursuit

  • 18 Jun 2016
  • 10:00 AM - 1:10 PM
  • First Presbyterian Church of Berkeley 2407 Dana Street Berkeley, CA 94704


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Making Peace with Pursuit

Presented by:

Valerie Crawford, Ph.D., and 

Jay M. Seiff-Haron Psy. D.


We all know how hard it can be when we ourselves feel challenged by a session or by a couple. Working with highly escalated/high-conflict couples poses a challenge for most EFT therapists. Clients’ reactive blame, contempt or victimization (of self or of partner) may challenge everyone in the therapeutic encounter, including the therapist. In this interactive morning, we will explore what helps to soothe the escalated pursuer during de-escalation, withdrawer re-engagement and pursuer softening. Through the use of video demonstrations and small group activities, we will explore effective interventions for highly escalated couples, enhance our empathetic understanding of “pursuer mind,” and develop our repertoire of counter-shaming resources for the self of the therapist that help us better bring succor to couples struggling with escalated cycles and pursuit.


Participants will learn how EFT interventions can soothe pursuit

Participants will understand how  unresolved trauma can results in “pursuer mind”

Participants will recognize how interventions vary across different change events in EFT


Valerie Crawford, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist and a Certified EFT Therapist in private practice, with offices in San Francisco (Pacific Heights) and Corte Madera. She enjoys working with individuals, couples and families, as well as supporting parents with parenting and co-parenting challenges. In addition to continuous learning activities in EFT, she is pursuing on-going training in AEDP. She earned her doctorate in psychology from Clark University in Massachusetts and a B.A. in Communication from University of California, San Diego. Prior to training as a clinical psychologist, she conducted research on teaching, learning, and expertise, funded by the National Science Foundation and US Department of Education.

Jay M. Seiff-Haron, Psy.D., is a Certified EFT Therapist and EFT  Supervisor-in-Training with private practices in Cow Hollow and downtown San Francisco. Jay specializes in EFT with interfaith, interracial or same-sex couples; attachment-informed co-parenting and custody evaluation; “EFFT with toys” for parents and their children 6 and under after loss, domestic violence, divorce, separation or trauma; and EMDR. A member of National Training Labs (NTL), Jay has taught family therapy at the Wright Institute, is Executive Director and core faculty at Cross-Cultural Communications (a non-profit that develops residential and organizational trainings about diversity, inclusion and social justice), and holds an MBA from Stanford University.

10-10:15 Networking and professional socialization 

10:15 to 11:00 AM NCCEFT Annual Membership Meeting 

11:00-1:10 Training (break from 12:00-12:10)

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In association with the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy

NCCEFT is a professional association of therapists practicing Emotionally Focused Therapy in Northern California. Serving communities of the San Francisco Bay Area and beyond, including San Francisco, Oakland, Berkeley, Fremont, San Jose, Sacramento, Santa Rosa, Stockton, Modesto, Fresno, and beyond; we have members throughout California and throughout the United States.
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